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Wednesday, December 19, 2007

4:17 - from the this-changes-nothing-for-you dept:

It was recently revealed to me that a group of friendly folks regularly meet up (once monthly) to hang out and play board games. This group was introduced to me through a dating web site, but someone who happened upon my profile. I decided to give it a shot, and I had a lot of fun, so I've opened a door to a new set of potential friends and regular social activity, as had been much needed for me.

What turns out more significant, for me, but what should not be particularly important to you in knowing me, is that this particular group is known as "Gay Gamers" and may yet help me to find a relationship in the long run. It is in that fact, that as far as this web site goes, I am revealing that I am gay.

This is not information that I feel the need to widely publish or advertise out of irrelevant circles, but it is one I am disinterested in hiding. The Gay Gamers group on Facebook was created shortly after the event I attended two weekends prior, and I joined that group (which was marked quite clearly in my profile). I was also tagged in photos from the meetup. In doing so, the omission of my preference for dating men was revealed, so I decided it was justified that I simply make it explicit. It is now done.

This basically completes the "outing" of myself on the Internet, as I have informed those finding me via MySpace, via online forums, IM or IRC, and now and finally Facebook and my web site.

I am concerned that my cousins, aunts, uncles, and other close relatives, who do not yet know I am gay may react negatively to the information listed in Facebook or on my web site, should they read either. I have been considering discussing this revelation with my cousins when I see them during the holidays (though I don't want to force a discussion if there's no opening).

If any of my family (or anyone else) should read this prior my making it known in person, I will be happy to talk in person, on the phone, or via any other media about it. I hope, if it does come as a surprise, that it comes as no disappointment to you, as I am content with being gay and it really has nothing to do with you. It changes nothing as far as my personality, my points of view (on anything), my ambitions, or anything else about me. And as it goes, if it is something that you are unable to get past, then you'll have to deal with that on your own, as much as that saddens me.

I will, for now, not post about this matter again, nor will I rewrite my "about" page to indicate that I am gay, as, if I were straight, I would certainly not think to include that information in a general summary of myself.

I like to refer to this quote by Grey's Anatomy cast member T.R. Knight when dealing with the overall significance of my being gay to people who don't want to date me:

"I guess there have been a few questions about my sexuality, and I'd like to quiet any unnecessary rumors that may be out there. While I prefer to keep my personal life private, I hope the fact that I'm gay isn't the most interesting part of me."

If this revelation changes everything for you, with respect to me, then our relationship and what you know about me is all wrong. Only you can know whether that's true, but if it is, then you can now make the choice about whether you want to fix it, or lose it. I certainly hope the former.

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Saturday, December 29, 2007 at 2:16 by Nick Catalano

Ahh that explains why your Orkut profile said that for do long. As someone who knows quite a few gay friends I know the coming out thing is difficult. It would be nice if it wasn't seen as necessary but to many it is. But man, geeky gay guys meeting to play board games. You don't see that everyday... Thank god :-)

Saturday, December 22, 2007 at 11:07 by Mom, Dad, Alli

We love you Kev!

Wednesday, December 19, 2007 at 12:50 by Kewlio

Congrats on completing the process ^^

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